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Purple Healing Circles are for individuals who are committed to healing from having harmed a child sexually by taking full responsibility for the harm they caused, and who are seeking redemption and a deeper understanding of themselves in order to come to a more balanced place within their family system and/or within their web of relationships.

 
 


⌾ Circles begin periodically and participation is free.

⌾ Circles run for approximately 12 weeks, and last for about 1hr & 15 minutes to 1hr & 30 minutes each, depending on the number of attendees that week

⌾ All Circles are comprised of between 4 - 10 participants, and all participants must be at least 18 years old.

⌾ To participate, we highly recommend a firm commitment to attend the first three (3) meetings and the strong intention to attend all twelve (12) meetings.

⌾ Once a Circle is completed, participants are welcome to return and join subsequent Circles.

For more information see About Healing Circles →

Being in a Purple Circle helped me to reclaim my humanity and worthiness to live a full life of dignity.  In Circle, I am able to share my experiences and to hear the experiences of others who are also seeking redemption, and through this, we help each other.  In Circle, I never forget that I have hurt someone, but I also have come to know that I have healed enough to help others, too.
— Laurent Rappaport
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Some Frequently Asked (Purple) Questions

I was a child or teenager when I caused harm. Can I join a Purple Circle?

Yes, definitely. Purple Circles welcome anyone who identifies as a person who has caused harm sexually to a child or young person — regardless of the age you were when you caused it. Like the other Circles, Purple Circles draw people with all types of experiences and stories, and the richness of the group is generated from those differences of experience.

Will I get in trouble if I come forward about causing harm to someone?

Hidden Water Circles are for healing and taking responsibility, not punishment. Hidden Water is not meant to be used to build a case against anyone for criminal prosecution, and we will not gather evidence from anyone. We do not keep a record of anything that happened in Circle, and beyond contact information, we will not keep any records of any kind. We only collect contact information and will do everything we can to preserve your right to confidentiality. If you choose, you are welcome to use your first name and an initial for your last name when you are registering. All of that said, Hidden Water is also not meant to replace a criminal prosecution should a victim choose to pursue that course of action.

If I participate in a Purple Circle, can this count as therapy that is mandated by my parole or can this help reduce my sentence in court?

No. Hidden Water Circle Keepers do not function as therapists or counselors, therefore while our Healing Circles can be profoundly therapeutic, they do not comply with court-mandated counseling regulations. More importantly, participation in Circles of any color should be completely voluntary and for no other purpose than to further your own healing and development. Hidden Water does not provide any proof of attendance or completion of our Circle programs, and participation in our Circles cannot be used as a means of appeal, for a reduction of court sentences, or as part of a sentence mandated by a court.

What constitutes “harm” or “abuse”?

Many people do not have a clear picture or memory of the harm (but have a strong feeling that something happened) and have asked us if they can join a Circle. The answer is yes. Others have asked: What if I sexually harmed someone under the age of 18 but I don’t think it's legally considered “abuse" because I was also under 18 years old?; or What if the person I harmed doesn’t think what I did was “abuse”?, can I join a Purple Circle?

The guideline for us is: if any violation of a sexual nature, clear or unclear in detail, happened to someone under the age of 18, by someone of any age, known to that minor or not, including a stranger, and you believe there has been a negative impact, this qualifies to participate in Hidden Water.

Is everything confidential?

It is a general principle of Circle that what is shared in Circle is held in confidence and with respect. In the second session of Circle, Circle Keepers lead the group in co-creating guidelines and agreements for how the group will function together, which always includes a conversation about confidentiality, among other issues of trust and safety. Circle Keepers and the rest of the Hidden Water staff keep all personal information shared, inside and outside Circle, confidential. This includes the names of anyone participating in a Circle. Hidden Water does not collect any information about participants beyond their contact information and the Circles they have attended. Hidden Water has a strict policy of not providing any documentation about attendance or participation to anyone outside of Hidden Water.

The only exception to our practice of confidentiality is if information surfaces which leads Hidden Water to believe that a child is currently being harmed or is in imminent danger of being harmed; Hidden Water chooses to follow the guidelines of mandatory reporting and will inform Child Protective Services of any information that might keep a child safe.

If the person that I harmed does not want to participate, what can I do?

We suggest joining a Circle. We have had people come through Purple Circle even when the person that they harmed is not participating. We create an opportunity for everyone impacted by child sexual abuse to do their healing work without needing any specific person to participate in the process. We have noticed that even just one person doing their work can change the dynamics of an entire family or community. Circle creates a family/community system of sorts which often results in taking away the feeling of isolation and the sense you are alone in the work.

People who have been harmed are often burdened with the well-meaning questions: “what can I do to help you?”, or "how can I fix this?", or “why can’t you forgive me; what more can I say or do?” Our answer is: come to your own understanding of how to heal, and join a Purple Circle if you sense that you can't do that alone. Doing your own healing work takes some of the burden off the person who was harmed by not requiring them to help you figure out how to help, or how you can feel better, or asking them to teach you the way towards healing while they are working to find that path for themselves.

For more FAQs, please see our FAQs page.

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The Gifts of Healing

There is no cost to participate in Hidden Water Circles. All Circles are gifted to current participants by previous participants who chose to help us “pay-it-forward”.

Hidden Water Circle Keepers volunteer their time and consider this work an act of service, which also furthers their own continuing healing, enabling the circle of healing to continue.

 
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What’s After Circle?

Self-care

After you have completed a Purple Circle, first and foremost, be present to your growing edge and keep taking good care of yourself. Self-care and connection with others are paramount. If you need support, please seek it out. You can also contact your Circle Keeper(s) who can help guide you to professional support.  Remember you are not alone.

 
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Also, there are several ways you can continue on your healing path while staying connected to Hidden Water:

Join Another Circle

If you feel at anytime that joining another Purple Circle would benefit you, we always warmly welcome back past participants.  If you also identify with another color Circle, you may consider joining one of those Circles. People who have been through Circle are uniquely valuable in subsequent Circles. There is no formula or graduation date for healing and it’s not uncommon for people to participate in multiple Circles.

Ask About Multi-Color Circles  

If you would like to participate in a Circle with others who have completed at least one Green, Orange, Blue or Purple Healing Circle, please speak with your Circle Keeper(s) and/or contact us.  When there is enough desire and need for such a Circle, we will work with those who are interested and ready to come together in a restorative Systems Circle process.

Join Us

If you are interested in volunteer opportunities, are inspired to write a testimonial or blog post, would be willing to speak to someone interested in joining a Purple Circle about your experience, and/or have any other ideas about staying engaged with our work, please fill out this short form and help us expand the circle.

 

Become a Circle Keeper

All Purple Circle Keepers have taken responsibility for having harmed a child sexually, and have completed at least one 12-week Purple Circle and a Circle Keeper training.  If after completing a Purple Circle, you would like to become a volunteer Circle Keeper for Hidden Water, please let your Circle Keeper(s) know, and they will recommend you for one of our trainings. For more information, please see FAQs, What is a Circle Keeper? & How can I become a Circle Keeper? →

 
 

If you have participated in a Circle and feel you have benefitted from your experience, you are welcome to make a donation, based on your means and desire. Your donations are what make it possible for others to have a seat in the next round of Circles.

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Finally, we invite you to follow our Blog.

On our Blog, we share ideas, stories and events, as well as feature creative work from our Hidden Water community. We are also in the process of collecting Resources (articles, books, podcasts, films, etc) that Circle Keepers and participants have found helpful along our various journeys towards healing, empowerment and wholeness.

Below are the most recent posts for Purple and links to the Resources we are collecting. We’re adding more as we can. If there is something you think we should consider including, please write to us.

 

To see Resources for Purple,
Purple Resources→


To see All Resources,
All Colors Resources→


To see & search our full Blog,
View All Posts→ 

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